Ignore the comments.
Hey there TechDiva!
My name is Chiranjiva, working in Verizon since last 10 years.
We came from India on job visa and started working as software engineer.
I have my wife and daughter.
My daughter was having tough time to mingle with her classmates in high school.
She was bright student till middle school but in high school, she had to deal with bigger kids with lot of color differentiation and racism etc. She was bullied with harsh words and comments.
She didn’t inform parents and was going through lot of stress to go to school and catch up studies. She was crying in school bathrooms and in her room at home. Her grades went down and at that time we enquired about studies and what is going on in school.
Then she cried a lot and told about her situation in the school. Then we took immediate action and approached Principal and Counselors with the situation.
They responded well and cautioned students.
We also took our daughter to psychiatrist for counselling her, after 3 to 4 sittings she understood how to take things in positive way and how to face bad situations etc.
Also we took her to other college students known to us who went through same harassments in the school. They explained that there will be always some bad kids will be there. They told her how to ignore them and only concentrate on studies.
After that she realized and started to ignore the comments from the bad students and started to concentrate on studies.
Once she started ignoring those kids and comments, slowly they stopped comments completely. She became braver and started giving speeches on bullying and on racism in the schools etc. She improved her grades and started thinking independently. She also started helping other kids who were going through same situations.
This year she is completing her graduation in May’ 2022. Already she got job offer as Analyst in big real estate company in NYC.
Finally what I suggest to school students who is going undergoing same situation that they should follow the following steps to overcome the bad comments and racism.
Any bullying or comments to be brought to the notice of class teacher and to the counsellors.
You have to inform to your parents what you are going through so that they will help you to overcome the situations.
Don’t pay attention to bad comments and try to ignore them completely.
Focus on your studies and curriculum to improve your personality and your growth.
Meet the seniors who are in college from your family friends to know how they faced these situations and came out.
If you are still feeling not comfortable with the help of parents take counseling from the psychiatrist.
Focus on your future and divert your mind to your interesting activities like sports or music etc.
Hope it will give you some help to overcome some bad situations in the school.